As my sons verge on the cusp of entering the world of work, this signals a change in my circumstances. No, I am not planning to hang up my own working gloves – they’re going to stay on for as long as I can. What this pending change means for me is that I can worry a little less about them now, insha’Allah. I can take my finger off the pulse somewhat and trust in Allah that He will guide them to a life of more independence.
Meanwhile, I envisage more freedom and time to focus on myself.
The last few years have seen a significant change for my sons. They are more or less their own persons now. I have been somewhat released from being the gatekeeper or guard of the house. Having grown-up young men around means they now share in household chores such as cooking meals or doing the grocery shopping. For the last few years, the tasks at home were solely my responsibility but nowadays I can delegate. Better still, on some occasions, my sons also volunteer and take charge of various jobs which would have otherwise been left to me as a default option. I will not hesitate to take them up on their offers.
Today, I experienced a small realisation of one of my son’s long-term dream: taking to the sky to fly. It was wonderful to watch him in the cockpit of a small plane, alongside the pilot, enjoying the adventure of flying. It was almost as much my dream as it was his. Today was a determining point in his life in which he would either confirm to himself his desire to pursue this quest to learn to fly planes or quielty resign. Alhamdulillah, he returned even more invigorated to keep going…
I’m excited for him and for the rest of my brood to realise their dreams not just for the sake of this duniya (world) where they will simply take and not reciprocate. I want to see that through their personal goals, they will find a way to serve humanity and leave an indelibly positive impact wherever they go. This is the legacy I want to see left behind, insha’Allah.
As a mother, I am eternally grateful that I have been able to witness all the milestones that my sons have reached. Their excitement is mine too. I hope this new chapter we have all entered will have pages filled by each of us in time to come. I pray the final book will be a success in every sense – a book a copy of which we will be proud to take to the other side of life, insha’Allah.
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