A Cup of Tea, A Biscuit and Me

One of the simplest formulae for bliss. In all my years of motherhood, a cup of hot tea and a biscuit have been my best friends, my counsel and my therapy. I have to confess that hardly a day has gone by in the last twenty years or so when I have not had thatContinue reading “A Cup of Tea, A Biscuit and Me”

How We Can Learn to Accept the Wisdom of Our Children

https://www.amaliah.com/post/66247/how-to-involve-children-decision-making-raising-wise-children BY SABIA ALI IN RELATIONSHIPS ON 19TH JANUARY, 2023 If asked who we would turn to for wholesome advice and trustworthy opinions, a few examples of people might come to mind: mother, father, grandparents, teachers, counsellors, religious figures and perhaps older people generally. Most of them having lived longer than us, they possess a greater breadth and depth ofContinue reading “How We Can Learn to Accept the Wisdom of Our Children”

When the Shoes Don’t Fit

Try as much as we like, sometimes it’s just not possible to convince our children to see eye to eye with us, their parents. I use the word ‘children’ in its loose sense. My sons are more young adults. They don’t see the world as I do and whilst I know it’s foolish to imposeContinue reading “When the Shoes Don’t Fit”

See Yourself for Who You Are

A common theme that runs through all my blog posts. I’ve learnt that nobody is going to take as much care of me as me. So, here goes…! In fact, I’ve been on the journey of looking out for myself for a few years now. Ever since I learnt the harsh lesson that I couldn’tContinue reading “See Yourself for Who You Are”

Walking A Tightrope

The other definition of parenthood: tightrope walking. One of the most challenging aspects of it is to find the right balance between knowing when to share advice and when to keep quiet. Constantly assessing and over-assessing a situation to know if it’s a good time to get a positive outcome or not. Sometimes, I haveContinue reading “Walking A Tightrope”

Charity is All In the Mind

Asked what charity looks like and most probably people would say “giving money to the poor”. It would definitely be the most popular answer. Whilst that is very true, we know that charity can encompass so much more. Sometimes, it doesn’t even involve reaching deep into our pockets. But always, it should involve reaching deepContinue reading “Charity is All In the Mind”

Too Old for New Friends?

A question I ask myself many times and always the answer would be ‘yes’. Why would I want to try to make new friends at this late stage of my life? How could two people possibly catch up on all the previously missed years of each other’s growing up, schooling, marriage, having kids etc etc.?Continue reading “Too Old for New Friends?”

Every Mother’s Need to be a Child

I believe that the ability to carry and deliver a child into this world is more of a physical one than anything else. For most women, we are predisposed to this ability given our physiological makeup. Yet, moving through the years, and beyond bringing a child into the world, the practical considerations of raising thatContinue reading “Every Mother’s Need to be a Child”

Learn. Love. Laugh.

It all boils down to that. My summary of a life fulfilled. Each day has to contain all three of those composite elements to make that day worth living. So what about the cynics who would argue that it’s impossible to laugh through difficult times? Or those who feel bitter about unrequited love or oneContinue reading “Learn. Love. Laugh.”

Time Out

There comes a point in one’s life when they need to pause and reflect on everything to date. To be honest, there should be many points when that happens. In those moments, we need to examine where we are heading with regards to our future ambitions. Whether these are to do with career moves, marriageContinue reading “Time Out”