Me and A Thousand Others

There are times when I come to this blog with a clear plan about what I want to say. Sometimes, the thoughts which materialise onto paper are those which have been brewing in my mind for a while. Other times, the thoughts come to the fore often last minute. In almost all those cases, theContinue reading “Me and A Thousand Others”

No Lemonade is Made Without Lemons

Everyone’s life is full of uncertainty. No matter how well-organised (or not) someone is, there is no telling what’s around the corner. Yet uncertainty itself isn’t always a negative thing. Arguably, it’s what keeps us on our toes. Knowing that life isn’t always a level playing field, and that the only constant is inconsistency, isContinue reading “No Lemonade is Made Without Lemons”

Where the Grass is Greener

As my own sons enter the next phase of their lives, I feel I am doing the same. Yet, whereas their next steps involve new academic journeys, mine obviously is not of that nature. To be honest, I haven’t actually officially embarked on any new venture but, in my mind, I feel it’s time toContinue reading “Where the Grass is Greener”

How to Climb a Mountain by Accident

For those readers who have been following my blog, they would know by now that a recurring theme in my writing is the mindset which does not give up easily and wallow in self-pity. Last week, I skipped a blog post not because of the lack of anything to say. Far from it! I wasContinue reading “How to Climb a Mountain by Accident”

The Suitability of a Spouse

For the last five years, I have, more often than not, wondered about the reasons which lead to the demise of my marriage.  I concluded that it must have been insurmountable incompatibilities rooted in cultural and ethnic differences.  Moreover, it was all my fault; I hadn’t worked or tried hard enough to move across thoseContinue reading “The Suitability of a Spouse”

Unsticking the Stigma

Looking at the blog title, it should not come as a surprise that my topic today is about Divorce.  Yes, I say Divorce with a capital ‘D’.  This is because the impact of it can’t be overemphasised. Why am I still dwelling on this topic given it’s been almost five years since that decisive turningContinue reading “Unsticking the Stigma”

A Letter to my Former Self

Dear Broken Wings, Assalaamu Alaikum. Peace be upon you. Yes, Peace with a capital ‘P’. I know you can’t even begin to fathom how that word will return to your world but return it will, insha’Allah. One day, you will begin to see it for yourself. I will say, “I told you so.” Be strong.Continue reading “A Letter to my Former Self”

What will the Children Say?

In the time I have taken to slowly rebuild my life after divorce, I can confidently say that I have always kept my children and their emotions well within my radar. I believe mothers have been blessed with an innate ability to go into a kind of defence mode and protect their young.  It isContinue reading “What will the Children Say?”