Mind the Gap…

…between reality and fantasy. It is a harsh truth we must learn to face.  Who has not lived a life where, in our youth, we had high hopes and an innocent confidence of what was yet to come?  Then, as time passed, those hopes slowly diminished and at the other end of the time spectrum,Continue reading “Mind the Gap…”

The Best Things in Life are Three..

Who would deny that the simplest things in life are the best?  We spend the better part of our lives vying for this and that, be it a job, a house, a car and a myriad of other material things.  Age does give the benefit of hindsight and a wisdom that cannot be gained fromContinue reading “The Best Things in Life are Three..”

The Suitability of a Spouse

For the last five years, I have, more often than not, wondered about the reasons which lead to the demise of my marriage.  I concluded that it must have been insurmountable incompatibilities rooted in cultural and ethnic differences.  Moreover, it was all my fault; I hadn’t worked or tried hard enough to move across thoseContinue reading “The Suitability of a Spouse”

A Personal Review of Ramadan

Alhamdulillah, we are almost at the end of the blessed month.  Perhaps saying “Alhamdulillah” might seem an inappropriate choice of word.  It suggests a sense of relief.  However, I mean it in the sense that I have been fortunate to have experienced most of this month and inshaAllah, will see it right to the endContinue reading “A Personal Review of Ramadan”

Readiness for Ramadan

The blessed month of Ramadan is almost upon us and my phone has already been exploding with notifications of upcoming webinars, lectures and tips for a productive month of worship and reward. As well-meaning as all of this is, I actually find it sends me into a state of frenzy and anxiety. In an ageContinue reading “Readiness for Ramadan”

Should I Forgive to Forget or Forget so that I may Forgive?

This is one of those conundrums that I have often found myself in when pondering over the sense of having been wronged. For the most part, I think I forgive so that I may forget.  I have forgiven all those who have hurt me knowingly or unknowingly.  To be honest, the only impetus for thatContinue reading “Should I Forgive to Forget or Forget so that I may Forgive?”

A Lesson in Emotional Self-Defence

If there’s one thing that I am grateful for since my divorce, it is the return of total independence in my life.  I mean independence from another human being.  That is not to suggest that I suffered miserable subjugation at the hands of another.  However, it is true that whilst I was married, I gaveContinue reading “A Lesson in Emotional Self-Defence”