When two of my sons recently returned on their separate but consecutive trips abroad to see their father, the question that family and friends asked me was, “How do you keep calm?“ The truth is, I knew a time would come when my sons would voluntarily travel to visit their father. I have been bracingContinue reading “A Leap of Faith”
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The Flotsam and Jetsam of a Post-Divorce Life
As a blogger, I always write with the intention that someone out there, particularly a woman who has gone through a similar experience to me, will hopefully stumble across my musings and take comfort from knowing that she isn’t the only one feeling what she does. From speaking to friends, I know that my writingContinue reading “The Flotsam and Jetsam of a Post-Divorce Life”
Musings on Motherhood
When a woman enters the arena of motherhood, she knows that that role will never be a static one. Over the years, as her children move from one stage of life to the next, so too does the role of motherhood also evolve. Each phase brings its own challenges but undeniable joy at the sameContinue reading “Musings on Motherhood”
Absence Makes the Heart Grow…
…fonder? Not always true. Unfortunately, life is not so simple. There are actually times when the absence of a person is a chance for those left behind to heal and recover from gaping wounds. …calmer? That is more akin to the reality my sons and I have experienced over these last six years. Having beenContinue reading “Absence Makes the Heart Grow…”
Conversations with My Mother
In conversations with my octogenarian mother, I find I have to often bite my tongue and remind myself that not only is she my mother but also the product of another generation. Since I’ve been divorced, she has countless times lamented the fact that I am now on my own. She worries about my futureContinue reading “Conversations with My Mother”
Aiming for Perfection
Five years ago, when I was just emerging from the ashes of my marriage, I recall a few friends telling me to keep myself occupied. The idea was that being distracted would prevent me from sliding down the slippery slope into the past and into despair. “Easier said than done,” I thought as I silentlyContinue reading “Aiming for Perfection”
Me and A Thousand Others
There are times when I come to this blog with a clear plan about what I want to say. Sometimes, the thoughts which materialise onto paper are those which have been brewing in my mind for a while. Other times, the thoughts come to the fore often last minute. In almost all those cases, theContinue reading “Me and A Thousand Others”
Know Thyself
A lot of debate surrounds the origin of this legendary quote. Some historians attribute it to Greek philosophy, namely Socrates; others say he cannot take the credit. To be honest, I am not interested in the historic roots of this maxim. I am only interested in what these two simple words mean for me whenContinue reading “Know Thyself”
The Suitability of a Spouse
For the last five years, I have, more often than not, wondered about the reasons which lead to the demise of my marriage. I concluded that it must have been insurmountable incompatibilities rooted in cultural and ethnic differences. Moreover, it was all my fault; I hadn’t worked or tried hard enough to move across thoseContinue reading “The Suitability of a Spouse”
A Lesson in Emotional Self-Defence
If there’s one thing that I am grateful for since my divorce, it is the return of total independence in my life. I mean independence from another human being. That is not to suggest that I suffered miserable subjugation at the hands of another. However, it is true that whilst I was married, I gaveContinue reading “A Lesson in Emotional Self-Defence”
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