The Funny Thing about Laughter

Today, I want to express a few words regarding this ambiguous thing called ‘ a sense of humour’.  Not everyone has the same definition of it but, for the most part, I’m sure people would agree it’s about having the ability to laugh.  In doing so, we let go of stresses especially when there’s aContinue reading “The Funny Thing about Laughter”

The Future in Focus

Last week, I wrote about my attempts not to lapse into an emotional quagmire of the past. In a conscious effort to avoid that, this week I have busied myself in other things. The first of those is a full focus on my own ‘children’.  I use that word ‘children’ in its loose sense sinceContinue reading “The Future in Focus”

Aiming for Perfection

Five years ago, when I was just emerging from the ashes of my marriage, I recall a few friends telling me to keep myself occupied.  The idea was that being distracted would prevent me from sliding down the slippery slope into the past and into despair.  “Easier said than done,” I thought as I silentlyContinue reading “Aiming for Perfection”

Sick of the Sycophant

There are several lessons I have learnt in the last few years since I started life out on my own with my children.  All of them have been rude awakenings and the one I want to focus on today is no exception. Despite my best efforts to tell – or rather, show – the worldContinue reading “Sick of the Sycophant”

Blessings Are a Test Too

We all know the need to bear patience when things don’t go to plan.  Our plan.  How many times have we heard someone give that timeless advice to keep positive, understand that when things go seemingly wrong, it’s Allah’s way of testing us to remain calm?  We need to put our wholehearted trust in Him. Continue reading “Blessings Are a Test Too”

The Catapult Effect

It’s a known fact that parenting does not come with its own handbook.  There are no hard and fast rules about how to raise your children.  There is also no single approach to this daunting task and that’s true whether you are working from within cultural, societal or religious boundaries or not.  For the mostContinue reading “The Catapult Effect”

40+ years and a Cup of Coffee

This is one of those blogs where I am simply going to write as the thoughts come to my mind, minus the typos inshaAllah. Today, I met up with a school friend from my childhood after 41 years! Over a cup of coffee, we settled in our seats ready to enlighten the other about ourContinue reading “40+ years and a Cup of Coffee”

No More IOUs

When you’re starting out on your own again after divorce, it’s almost impossible not to call on the help of others.  There’s no shame in doing that.  Be it money, food or someone to talk to, all these collective forms of help are our lifeline of hope in those dark days when we are stillContinue reading “No More IOUs”

Questioning those who Question

Before, during and since my boys went off to university, I have had people ask me how I feel knowing they are no longer with me.  There have been occasions where I know the questions are not simply about me missing them.  I feel that underlying the questions are preconceived notions of what can beContinue reading “Questioning those who Question”

Me and A Thousand Others

There are times when I come to this blog with a clear plan about what I want to say. Sometimes, the thoughts which materialise onto paper are those which have been brewing in my mind for a while. Other times, the thoughts come to the fore often last minute. In almost all those cases, theContinue reading “Me and A Thousand Others”