Mind the Gap…

…between reality and fantasy. It is a harsh truth we must learn to face.  Who has not lived a life where, in our youth, we had high hopes and an innocent confidence of what was yet to come?  Then, as time passed, those hopes slowly diminished and at the other end of the time spectrum,Continue reading “Mind the Gap…”

A Lesson in Emotional Self-Defence

If there’s one thing that I am grateful for since my divorce, it is the return of total independence in my life.  I mean independence from another human being.  That is not to suggest that I suffered miserable subjugation at the hands of another.  However, it is true that whilst I was married, I gaveContinue reading “A Lesson in Emotional Self-Defence”

Unsticking the Stigma

Looking at the blog title, it should not come as a surprise that my topic today is about Divorce.  Yes, I say Divorce with a capital ‘D’.  This is because the impact of it can’t be overemphasised. Why am I still dwelling on this topic given it’s been almost five years since that decisive turningContinue reading “Unsticking the Stigma”

The Secret of Insouciance

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about longevity.  I guess when the prime of life has passed, this is the inevitable phase that the mind enters. Coronavirus, lockdown, vaccines, isolation, death…all pretty grim words that have become part of the vernacular of front doorstep conversations and political debates across the world.  Glancing at newsContinue reading “The Secret of Insouciance”

Birthdays are for Mothers

Today is a poignant day for me. It is on this day, twenty years ago, I entered the unknown realm of motherhood for the first time, Alhamdulillah. Not to one child, but to two, Alhamdulillah. As I reflect on those twenty amazing years gone by, I see my boys’ lives flash by me in seconds.Continue reading “Birthdays are for Mothers”

Mapping a Route to an Unknown Destination

If there is anything I have learnt lately, it is to not overthink and overanalyse but to keep moving forward.  There are enough inspirational stories out there of people going well out of their comfort zones in their advanced years and finding a whole new zeal for life. I may not have any awesome aspirationsContinue reading “Mapping a Route to an Unknown Destination”

A New Perspective on the Old

I’m writing today knowing that there is heaviness in many people’s hearts, not just about Christmas being cancelled, or 2020, but about so much beyond. To be honest, although the months and years are obvious markers of the movement of time, I feel we should not get too fixated about measuring life against them.  IContinue reading “A New Perspective on the Old”

It’s not Just the Kids Taking Flight

I am at that point in my life where the family nest is slowly emptying out.  The boys are flourishing into young men and I am watching them reach each pending milestone. Ah, to be young and carefree again!  I am excited for them almost as they are.  I see their eager anticipation to graspContinue reading “It’s not Just the Kids Taking Flight”

And the Winner is…..

OK, so you’re probably expecting me to announce here that Joe Biden has been declared the successor to the White House.  Whilst the world’s attention has been focused on a contest that has been played out on the world’s stage, I’m not here to discuss politics.  My announcement about winning is of a much moreContinue reading “And the Winner is…..”

A Letter to my Former Self

Dear Broken Wings, Assalaamu Alaikum. Peace be upon you. Yes, Peace with a capital ‘P’. I know you can’t even begin to fathom how that word will return to your world but return it will, insha’Allah. One day, you will begin to see it for yourself. I will say, “I told you so.” Be strong.Continue reading “A Letter to my Former Self”