Conversations with My Mother

In conversations with my octogenarian mother, I find I have to often bite my tongue and remind myself that not only is she my mother but also the product of another generation. Since I’ve been divorced, she has countless times lamented the fact that I am now on my own.  She worries about my futureContinue reading “Conversations with My Mother”

Aiming for Perfection

Five years ago, when I was just emerging from the ashes of my marriage, I recall a few friends telling me to keep myself occupied.  The idea was that being distracted would prevent me from sliding down the slippery slope into the past and into despair.  “Easier said than done,” I thought as I silentlyContinue reading “Aiming for Perfection”

Sick of the Sycophant

There are several lessons I have learnt in the last few years since I started life out on my own with my children.  All of them have been rude awakenings and the one I want to focus on today is no exception. Despite my best efforts to tell – or rather, show – the worldContinue reading “Sick of the Sycophant”

What can a Mother Teach her Sons?

Well, a lot actually.  Firstly, I want to debunk the myth that the gender difference would be a limiting factor. With me being a woman and my sons being, well males obviously, some might think that this lesson will be off to a bad start from the outset. Actually, I think that’s exactly where itsContinue reading “What can a Mother Teach her Sons?”

From Confusion to Fusion

Occasionally, I look back on random posts I have written over the past year and ask myself how much I have healed since my divorce. Why, after five years, have I not completely buried the past and moved on? Why do I sometimes rant about the past when I know deep within that I amContinue reading “From Confusion to Fusion”

The Catapult Effect

It’s a known fact that parenting does not come with its own handbook.  There are no hard and fast rules about how to raise your children.  There is also no single approach to this daunting task and that’s true whether you are working from within cultural, societal or religious boundaries or not.  For the mostContinue reading “The Catapult Effect”

Health (& Humility) = Wealth

We all know too well that when we are not feeling at our finest, in terms of physical health, everything else pales into insignificance.  All the intangible aspects of our being, our pride, our social status, our academic learning etc., suddenly seem so inconsequential when faced with physical challenges that inhibit our very existence. ToContinue reading “Health (& Humility) = Wealth”

Me and A Thousand Others

There are times when I come to this blog with a clear plan about what I want to say. Sometimes, the thoughts which materialise onto paper are those which have been brewing in my mind for a while. Other times, the thoughts come to the fore often last minute. In almost all those cases, theContinue reading “Me and A Thousand Others”

Where the Grass is Greener

As my own sons enter the next phase of their lives, I feel I am doing the same. Yet, whereas their next steps involve new academic journeys, mine obviously is not of that nature. To be honest, I haven’t actually officially embarked on any new venture but, in my mind, I feel it’s time toContinue reading “Where the Grass is Greener”

Mind the Gap…

…between reality and fantasy. It is a harsh truth we must learn to face.  Who has not lived a life where, in our youth, we had high hopes and an innocent confidence of what was yet to come?  Then, as time passed, those hopes slowly diminished and at the other end of the time spectrum,Continue reading “Mind the Gap…”