Ramadan Resolutions

Alhamdulillah, we are halfway through Ramadan. It has gone by quickly. Even more surprisingly, it has gone by almost effortlessly, Alhamdulillah. This year, like many others, I have not felt the physical toll of fasting. My own theory is that it’s because I have learnt to be distracted with other things such as the dailyContinue reading “Ramadan Resolutions”

Table for One

It is quite often that I am reminded of the fact that my youth was some time ago. It’s not anyone else who reminds me of this fact. I know it myself. There are the usual physical manifestations of the ageing process which we all know too well. Like many people, I have also succumbedContinue reading “Table for One”

Goodbye to Procrastination

Everyone in their lives is on their own journey of discovery – of things, people, places and ideas.  In trying to make sense of things, some people take longer than others. Nobody should be chastised for not ‘keeping up’ with their peers or for not seeing something that may appear glaringly obvious to another person.Continue reading “Goodbye to Procrastination”

Marriage Wows

…at least it does for some. A friend of mine recently asked if I was cynical about marriage given my own didn’t last its course.  I had to think for a moment.  Was I?  Do I look upon the idea of marriage as something not worth pursuing?  Do all marriages come apart at the seamsContinue reading “Marriage Wows”

The Dichotomy Women Face

There’s not denial that the rate of divorce has reached unprecedented levels in modern times.  An average of one in three marriages never make it to “death us do part”.  A sobering thought. Even more interesting is that this is not a Western phenomenon.  It is a sad fate that is familiar to those inContinue reading “The Dichotomy Women Face”

Conversations with My Mother

In conversations with my octogenarian mother, I find I have to often bite my tongue and remind myself that not only is she my mother but also the product of another generation. Since I’ve been divorced, she has countless times lamented the fact that I am now on my own.  She worries about my futureContinue reading “Conversations with My Mother”

Aiming for Perfection

Five years ago, when I was just emerging from the ashes of my marriage, I recall a few friends telling me to keep myself occupied.  The idea was that being distracted would prevent me from sliding down the slippery slope into the past and into despair.  “Easier said than done,” I thought as I silentlyContinue reading “Aiming for Perfection”

Sick of the Sycophant

There are several lessons I have learnt in the last few years since I started life out on my own with my children.  All of them have been rude awakenings and the one I want to focus on today is no exception. Despite my best efforts to tell – or rather, show – the worldContinue reading “Sick of the Sycophant”

What can a Mother Teach her Sons?

Well, a lot actually.  Firstly, I want to debunk the myth that the gender difference would be a limiting factor. With me being a woman and my sons being, well males obviously, some might think that this lesson will be off to a bad start from the outset. Actually, I think that’s exactly where itsContinue reading “What can a Mother Teach her Sons?”

From Confusion to Fusion

Occasionally, I look back on random posts I have written over the past year and ask myself how much I have healed since my divorce. Why, after five years, have I not completely buried the past and moved on? Why do I sometimes rant about the past when I know deep within that I amContinue reading “From Confusion to Fusion”