My musings today are another iteration of things I have mentioned on numerous occasions before. Yet, given we have just celebrated Eid ul-Fitr, which marks the end of Ramadan, it seem an appropriate time to share my thoughts again. Yesterday, my sons and I spent the day with extended family and had a memorable timeContinue reading “The Completeness of Being Incomplete”
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Just Below the Surface
In Ramadan, we are well-acquainted with the advice to keep negative thoughts and actions well at bay. Given the heightened spiritual ambience that this month brings into our homes and hearts, for the most part, it is a much easier thing to do than in times outside of Ramadan. However….. I cannot feign perfection. ThereContinue reading “Just Below the Surface”
…and then comes Ramadan
In recent weeks, months and dare I say years, I have reiterated privately and publicly about how I feel Allah has shown me an alternative version of happiness. Perhaps ‘happiness’ isn’t even the right word. Perhaps I should say, ‘contentment’. Because happiness implies a constant state of feeling positive and the reality is, nobody canContinue reading “…and then comes Ramadan”
Up, Up and Away
It might seem like a totally reckless thing to do but I am planning to escape for a short break to Iceland very soon. I am so tired of routine and the relentless pressure of managing money. I am determined to take control of it before it takes control of me. Therefore, although it mightContinue reading “Up, Up and Away”
When the Shoes Don’t Fit
Try as much as we like, sometimes it’s just not possible to convince our children to see eye to eye with us, their parents. I use the word ‘children’ in its loose sense. My sons are more young adults. They don’t see the world as I do and whilst I know it’s foolish to imposeContinue reading “When the Shoes Don’t Fit”
See Yourself for Who You Are
A common theme that runs through all my blog posts. I’ve learnt that nobody is going to take as much care of me as me. So, here goes…! In fact, I’ve been on the journey of looking out for myself for a few years now. Ever since I learnt the harsh lesson that I couldn’tContinue reading “See Yourself for Who You Are”
Walking A Tightrope
The other definition of parenthood: tightrope walking. One of the most challenging aspects of it is to find the right balance between knowing when to share advice and when to keep quiet. Constantly assessing and over-assessing a situation to know if it’s a good time to get a positive outcome or not. Sometimes, I haveContinue reading “Walking A Tightrope”
Too Old for New Friends?
A question I ask myself many times and always the answer would be ‘yes’. Why would I want to try to make new friends at this late stage of my life? How could two people possibly catch up on all the previously missed years of each other’s growing up, schooling, marriage, having kids etc etc.?Continue reading “Too Old for New Friends?”
Learn. Love. Laugh.
It all boils down to that. My summary of a life fulfilled. Each day has to contain all three of those composite elements to make that day worth living. So what about the cynics who would argue that it’s impossible to laugh through difficult times? Or those who feel bitter about unrequited love or oneContinue reading “Learn. Love. Laugh.”
Time Out
There comes a point in one’s life when they need to pause and reflect on everything to date. To be honest, there should be many points when that happens. In those moments, we need to examine where we are heading with regards to our future ambitions. Whether these are to do with career moves, marriageContinue reading “Time Out”