Aiming for Perfection

Five years ago, when I was just emerging from the ashes of my marriage, I recall a few friends telling me to keep myself occupied.  The idea was that being distracted would prevent me from sliding down the slippery slope into the past and into despair.  “Easier said than done,” I thought as I silentlyContinue reading “Aiming for Perfection”

Sick of the Sycophant

There are several lessons I have learnt in the last few years since I started life out on my own with my children.  All of them have been rude awakenings and the one I want to focus on today is no exception. Despite my best efforts to tell – or rather, show – the worldContinue reading “Sick of the Sycophant”

What can a Mother Teach her Sons?

Well, a lot actually.  Firstly, I want to debunk the myth that the gender difference would be a limiting factor. With me being a woman and my sons being, well males obviously, some might think that this lesson will be off to a bad start from the outset. Actually, I think that’s exactly where itsContinue reading “What can a Mother Teach her Sons?”

The Blame Game

This title needs no introduction.  At some point in our lives, we have had encounters or relationships with people and somewhere along the line, they have let us down.  Disappointment in others is part and parcel of life.  Finding perfection in others is an ever-elusive goal.  To be honest, who are we to seek perfectionContinue reading “The Blame Game”

Blessings Are a Test Too

We all know the need to bear patience when things don’t go to plan.  Our plan.  How many times have we heard someone give that timeless advice to keep positive, understand that when things go seemingly wrong, it’s Allah’s way of testing us to remain calm?  We need to put our wholehearted trust in Him. Continue reading “Blessings Are a Test Too”

From Confusion to Fusion

Occasionally, I look back on random posts I have written over the past year and ask myself how much I have healed since my divorce. Why, after five years, have I not completely buried the past and moved on? Why do I sometimes rant about the past when I know deep within that I amContinue reading “From Confusion to Fusion”

The Catapult Effect

It’s a known fact that parenting does not come with its own handbook.  There are no hard and fast rules about how to raise your children.  There is also no single approach to this daunting task and that’s true whether you are working from within cultural, societal or religious boundaries or not.  For the mostContinue reading “The Catapult Effect”

40+ years and a Cup of Coffee

This is one of those blogs where I am simply going to write as the thoughts come to my mind, minus the typos inshaAllah. Today, I met up with a school friend from my childhood after 41 years! Over a cup of coffee, we settled in our seats ready to enlighten the other about ourContinue reading “40+ years and a Cup of Coffee”

Health (& Humility) = Wealth

We all know too well that when we are not feeling at our finest, in terms of physical health, everything else pales into insignificance.  All the intangible aspects of our being, our pride, our social status, our academic learning etc., suddenly seem so inconsequential when faced with physical challenges that inhibit our very existence. ToContinue reading “Health (& Humility) = Wealth”