It’s no secret that women – more than men – often undersell their skills and abilities when applying for jobs. They underplay their achievements as mothers raising children and running a home at the same time. They usually need someone else, observing from the outside, to tell them that they’re doing much better than theyContinue reading “Imposter Syndrome”
Category Archives: grief
Reminders in a Dream
Every so often, I will have a dream which is very poignant and yet, a clear reminder to me that my current situation in life is a true blessing. Today, I want to speak candidly about such a dream. I saw my previous mother-in-law introducing a new potential wife to my then-husband and suggesting thisContinue reading “Reminders in a Dream”
Learning from Others’ Mistakes
When going through life, we inevitably come across encounters with others which cause us to reflect on our own lives. I’m no exception to that. Recently, I was engaged in a conversation with someone who was expressing their viewpoint about a sticky family situation. Whilst listening, I was coming in and out of focus andContinue reading “Learning from Others’ Mistakes”
Lessons from My Mother
Looking back at my own mother’s life, I wonder about the parallels between mine and hers. In all honesty, the only thing we have in common is that we were both divorced in our 40s. Of course, we share other things in common given the common blood that runs in our veins. However, whereas myContinue reading “Lessons from My Mother”
No More Long-Term
It’s a stark reality for me that I can no longer think of a whole life ahead as I would have done when in my 20s. Those days have long since passed. I now see life in shorter bursts or phases. No doubt, having lived the majority of my years on this Earth, I tellContinue reading “No More Long-Term”
Racing Against Time
When someone thinks of that slogan, they’d be forgiven for assuming it’s about all the things they need to accomplish before a certain deadline. That is absolutely true. However, the kind of goals that most people in today’s world are chasing after are those that only serve the physical self in this temporal existence, beContinue reading “Racing Against Time”
Half of My Life
Earlier this week, I reached a bittersweet and poignant point in my life. I realised that exactly half my life ago, I was embarking on a new chapter called ‘Marriage’. It didn’t last as long as I had expected to which, to be honest, I always imagined would be till the day either my husbandContinue reading “Half of My Life”
Nostalgia
A few days ago, I met up with an old friend who I’ve known since our university days together. That was over 30 years ago! Even writing that figure here seems surreal. How is it possible that so many years have gone by? To think of all the things each of us have achieved, exploredContinue reading “Nostalgia”
No More to Say?
In recent months, I’ve often thought about the idea of calling it a day with my online blog. I don’t have as much traffic as I used to in terms of views by others but I guess that’s because I don’t bother share it on my Instagram page or elsewhere as I used to before.Continue reading “No More to Say?”
Measuring Happiness
The idea to write about this in today’s blog post was inspired by the fact that I was recently asked a question in a group discussion of divorced Muslim women. “Where would I place myself in terms of happiness post-divorce, on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the highest score?” Without hesitation,Continue reading “Measuring Happiness”