Marriage Wows

…at least it does for some. A friend of mine recently asked if I was cynical about marriage given my own didn’t last its course.  I had to think for a moment.  Was I?  Do I look upon the idea of marriage as something not worth pursuing?  Do all marriages come apart at the seamsContinue reading “Marriage Wows”

The Dichotomy Women Face

There’s not denial that the rate of divorce has reached unprecedented levels in modern times.  An average of one in three marriages never make it to “death us do part”.  A sobering thought. Even more interesting is that this is not a Western phenomenon.  It is a sad fate that is familiar to those inContinue reading “The Dichotomy Women Face”

A Bird Out of a Tree

OK, I know.  So what’s the title about this time? Lately, I have been feeling restless. Like a bird, I want to fly and take off somewhere and try something new.  Migration. The economy isn’t looking good, life is becoming expensive and like everyone else, I am feeling squeezed financially.  But it’s not just moneyContinue reading “A Bird Out of a Tree”

Twenty-One Years a Mother

Alhamdulillah.  For everything.  Today, my oldest sons are on the cusp of completing twenty one years, inshaAllah. Whilst a big deal is made in Western culture of reaching a 21st birthday, I don’t celebrate them as such but I do acknowledge that a year is another milestone reached.  How could I not when I amContinue reading “Twenty-One Years a Mother”

The Funny Thing about Laughter

Today, I want to express a few words regarding this ambiguous thing called ‘ a sense of humour’.  Not everyone has the same definition of it but, for the most part, I’m sure people would agree it’s about having the ability to laugh.  In doing so, we let go of stresses especially when there’s aContinue reading “The Funny Thing about Laughter”

Conversations with My Mother

In conversations with my octogenarian mother, I find I have to often bite my tongue and remind myself that not only is she my mother but also the product of another generation. Since I’ve been divorced, she has countless times lamented the fact that I am now on my own.  She worries about my futureContinue reading “Conversations with My Mother”

The Future in Focus

Last week, I wrote about my attempts not to lapse into an emotional quagmire of the past. In a conscious effort to avoid that, this week I have busied myself in other things. The first of those is a full focus on my own ‘children’.  I use that word ‘children’ in its loose sense sinceContinue reading “The Future in Focus”

Aiming for Perfection

Five years ago, when I was just emerging from the ashes of my marriage, I recall a few friends telling me to keep myself occupied.  The idea was that being distracted would prevent me from sliding down the slippery slope into the past and into despair.  “Easier said than done,” I thought as I silentlyContinue reading “Aiming for Perfection”

Sick of the Sycophant

There are several lessons I have learnt in the last few years since I started life out on my own with my children.  All of them have been rude awakenings and the one I want to focus on today is no exception. Despite my best efforts to tell – or rather, show – the worldContinue reading “Sick of the Sycophant”

What can a Mother Teach her Sons?

Well, a lot actually.  Firstly, I want to debunk the myth that the gender difference would be a limiting factor. With me being a woman and my sons being, well males obviously, some might think that this lesson will be off to a bad start from the outset. Actually, I think that’s exactly where itsContinue reading “What can a Mother Teach her Sons?”