It’s no secret that women – more than men – often undersell their skills and abilities when applying for jobs. They underplay their achievements as mothers raising children and running a home at the same time. They usually need someone else, observing from the outside, to tell them that they’re doing much better than theyContinue reading “Imposter Syndrome”
Category Archives: Muslim mothers
Learning from Others’ Mistakes
When going through life, we inevitably come across encounters with others which cause us to reflect on our own lives. I’m no exception to that. Recently, I was engaged in a conversation with someone who was expressing their viewpoint about a sticky family situation. Whilst listening, I was coming in and out of focus andContinue reading “Learning from Others’ Mistakes”
How to Stay Relevant
As I move through life and come to the realisation that I am at the latter end of it, I often have to step back and ask myself, “What gives me purpose now? What goals do I have, if any?” These are questions that bounce around in my mind often. I’ve often commented that IContinue reading “How to Stay Relevant”
Catching Up with Now
I have made promises in recent months, and even years, to not allow myself to be held back by the past. I will not let those dark days cast a shadow over my life now. Alhamdulillah, for the most part, that is exactly what has happened. Things are moving forward and I eagerly anticipate allContinue reading “Catching Up with Now”
Lessons from My Mother
Looking back at my own mother’s life, I wonder about the parallels between mine and hers. In all honesty, the only thing we have in common is that we were both divorced in our 40s. Of course, we share other things in common given the common blood that runs in our veins. However, whereas myContinue reading “Lessons from My Mother”
No More Long-Term
It’s a stark reality for me that I can no longer think of a whole life ahead as I would have done when in my 20s. Those days have long since passed. I now see life in shorter bursts or phases. No doubt, having lived the majority of my years on this Earth, I tellContinue reading “No More Long-Term”
Half of My Life
Earlier this week, I reached a bittersweet and poignant point in my life. I realised that exactly half my life ago, I was embarking on a new chapter called ‘Marriage’. It didn’t last as long as I had expected to which, to be honest, I always imagined would be till the day either my husbandContinue reading “Half of My Life”
Post Ramadan Round-Up
It’s been a couple of weeks since I wrote anything here and a couple of weeks since Eid-ul-Fitr which marks the end of Ramadan. Hands down, it was one of the best Eids I have had in my entire life, Alhamdulillah. The only thing which would have made it perfect would have been if myContinue reading “Post Ramadan Round-Up”
Nostalgia
A few days ago, I met up with an old friend who I’ve known since our university days together. That was over 30 years ago! Even writing that figure here seems surreal. How is it possible that so many years have gone by? To think of all the things each of us have achieved, exploredContinue reading “Nostalgia”
Knowing One’s Place
It might seem like a bleak and pessimistic perspective but the idea of living out the remainder of my life without a marriage partner, is something that doesn’t make me afraid. If anything, I feel a sense of relief and being unfettered from responsibilities of taking care of another person other than those related toContinue reading “Knowing One’s Place”